GUIDE 011

You're Being Asked to Do Something Outside Your Role

The exact words for all 6 versions of this conversation -- before the extra work becomes assumed.

Ready before today's conversation 6 exact responses 36 pushback branches Includes follow-up plan Instant access

You're staring at a task that has nothing to do with your job title.

It didn't feel like a big deal the first time. It's not the first time anymore.

The work didn't change what your role is. It just quietly became what your role does.

Here's the part most people don't realize: raising it the first time is almost always easier than raising it the fifth time. Silence is what lets a one-off ask calcify into an assumed part of the job.

But 'this just happened once' and 'this has been assumed for six months' need completely different opening lines -- so winging it means guessing which of six versions of this you're actually in, and hoping the right words show up in the moment. This gives you the version that's actually happening, and the exact line to open with -- plus what to say when they don't just agree with you.

Step 1 — Here's What You Get

6 ready-to-use responses for the 6 ways this conversation actually happens.

This isn't one conversation, it's six. A first casual ask needs a different opening line than a task that's already been quietly assumed for months. Each response already includes the likely pushbacks and exactly how to handle them.

Most people say

Sure, no problem -- I'll just add it to my list.

This fix gives you

The Written Record Response

Word for word: 'Replying here so we've both got it in writing -- want to flag that this is outside what's typically on my plate.' Then exactly what to say if the flag gets ignored.

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That's one of the six responses inside. Because the first sentence is rarely the hard part.

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Page 14 from the guide you'll download today.

Every line in this guide was rewritten until it sounded like something a person would actually say under pressure -- tested against how these conversations really go, not how they're supposed to go.

And here's what happens a page later, once they push back --

Them

It's really not a big deal -- can you just take care of it like you did last week?

You

Happy to help out this once -- just so I'm tracking it right, is this a one-off, or something you'd want me handling going forward?

Them

I mean, if you're already doing it, it probably just makes sense for you to keep doing it.

You

I ask because it's outside what's on my plate normally, and I want to make sure we're both clear on which one this is.

This is where most people back down. The guide gives you the next line -- and 5 more branches if they keep pushing.

Which one sounds like your situation?

Inside this fix

The First Ask

When it's the first time you've been asked -- before it becomes a pattern

The Pattern Check

When it's happened more than once and you need to name the pattern

The Written Record Response

When the ask shows up in an email, task, or Slack message

The Misallocation Name

When it's clearly someone else's job and everyone knows it

The Expectation Reset

When it's been assumed for so long nobody remembers deciding it

The Promise Test

When it's framed as a favor that'll pay off later

One PDF. Six situations. A Quick Deployment page if the conversation starts in thirty seconds. Open it on your phone and go.

BONUS

The After Plan — Covers the next two weeks: writing down what was actually agreed, following up in writing on anything verbal, and deciding in advance how many more times this needs to happen before you escalate. Following it turns one calm conversation into an actual reset instead of a moment of relief that fades by the next ask. Most guides give you the words for the moment. This one gives you what to do after.

Step 2 — Here's What It Does For You

You raised it calmly. Here's what that actually gets you.

Because you named the scope question directly when most people just keep absorbing it.

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You don't keep guessing whether this is a one-off or the new normal. You get an actual answer, on record, instead of assuming and hoping you're right.

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You don't look like you're dodging work. You look like someone who tracks their own scope carefully -- which reads as organized, not difficult.

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You build the habit of naming scope creep early. The next ask, and the one after that, gets easier to raise because you've already proven you can do it calmly.

Step 3 — Here's What To Do Next

What happens if you wait on this.

Right now this is a five-minute conversation about one task. Wait three more rounds of this and it's a fully absorbed part of your job that nobody remembers deciding on -- a much bigger, harder conversation, from a weaker position. $7 for the exact words to a conversation you're already going to have anyway, either calmly this week or defensively months from now. If today's the day you finally raise it, that's cheaper than another month of quietly absorbing it.

If this isn't quite your situation

The task is already sitting in your inbox. Decide now whether it's a one-off or a pattern.

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P.S. If you skipped to the bottom -- you're staring at a task that isn't yours, wondering whether saying something will make you look difficult. It won't, if you use the right opening line. $7. Instant download. 6 responses, 36 pushback branches, and the After Plan for keeping the boundary once you've raised it. If it's not the right fit, we'll swap it.

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